Getting Divorced? Don't Do These Things on Social Media

Social media is so intertwined with American lives that most people don't think twice about posting the minute trivia of their daily lives on it—whether it's what they had for dinner or something funny their child said on the way to school.

So it seems strange not to post online about something huge that's happening in your world—like your divorce. However, if you're hoping to get through your divorce relatively drama-free, you need to follow this guide.

1. Don't intentionally aggravate your ex.

Is life actually going fine without your soon-to-be-ex-spouse? Are you actually happier? If so, enjoy your freedom, but do your gloating in private. Memes that make indirect comments about the fact that you're happier alone or photos of you with your latest romantic interest are sure to cause some fireworks. 

2. Don't stalk your ex's page.

Scouring your ex's social media pages to see if he or she is dating, what he or she is doing, or what he or she might be saying about you or your divorce is bad for you emotionally. It can also lead to problems if you fall to the temptation to let your ex know that you see whatever he or she has posted by liking every comment or photo. Just stay off your ex's page unless you have a really good reason for being there.

3. Don't air your dirty laundry to everyone.

Keep the details of your split private, or share them only with a few friends and relatives in person. For example, you don't want to tell everyone you're acquainted with—including your ex's relatives and all the neighbors—about your spouse's affair. Even if it feels therapeutic now, there may come a time when you'll regret it. If you have children together, your ex is going to be around for a long time—so don't make things intentionally embarrassing.

4. Don't post anything that could hurt your divorce case.

Are you asking for spousal support? Are you trying to avoid paying more than you already are? Don't post photos of yourself enjoying fancy dinners out or vacations on the beach if you plan to plead poverty in court. Similarly, if you're trying to show the court that you're a dedicated parent, don't post photos of yourself in full "party mode" while you're celebrating your upcoming divorce in a bar with friends. 

If you have any questions about what's okay to post on social media, talk to your divorce attorney before you post.